The holidays are in full swing, and that means the calendar is probably booking up with parties, family get togethers, and other events. While it’s certainly a time to be merry and bright, the holidays can also be stressful when you’re not exactly feeling that way. This is especially the case if you’re right in the middle of a battle with infertility. Follow our infertility holiday survival guide to help make the holidays as stress-free and enjoyable as possible.
Just Say No. Are you typically the kind of person who doesn’t turn down an event? This is the time to make an exception to that rule. Events that include lots of kids and pregnant woman may be especially hard, so know that it is okay to send your RSVP with a regret.
Don’t Stress Over Family Obligations. Do not feel guilty if you miss some of your traditional family events or decide to skip out early. The holidays can be stressful enough with juggling family obligations, and when you throw a battle with fertility into the mix, it’s just too overwhelming.
Make YOURSELF the Top Priority. This holiday season, make a point to do things that bring you happiness. Enjoy a special evening out with your partner, take a long walk, curl up by the fire with a good book, or plan an amazing winter weekend get-a-way! Whatever it is that makes you happy, do it! It’s the best gift you can give yourself.
Start Your Own Family Traditions. The holidays are a great time to enjoy family traditions and to also start new ones. This year, focus on starting your own traditions with your partner – ones that celebrate the relationship you share and the love you have for one another.
Do Not Pretend that Nothing is Wrong. Allow yourself to feel sad, deprived, or depressed. It’s okay; you are entitled to these feelings! Also make a point to share these feelings with your partner. More than likely, it’ll make you feel a whole lot better. We recommend journaling to let your feelings out if you don’t feel fully comfortable talking about it out loud.
Prepare Yourself for Unwanted Questions. Of course, when you see friends and family that you haven’t seen in a while, they’re going to ask how you’re doing and may even get a little too personal about when you’re planning to grow your family. In case this happens, it’s a good idea to prepare your responses. You can be honest, but at the same time, do not feel obligated to be an open book.
With some advanced planning and realistic expectations, you can survive the struggle with infertility and fully enjoy the holidays! If you’re dealing with infertility, we can help you through this process with compassion and understanding. For more information on fertility treatment options or to schedule an appointment with one of our top fertility specialists at our Raleigh, NC location, please give us a call at 919-908-0000.
From all of us at UNC Fertility, we wish you a very happy holiday season!